Sometimes, when people lie to us, we react by losing trust in people in general, we keep others away, we no longer open up, we even lose confidence in our judgment and in ourselves. We feel there’s something wrong with us because someone has lied to us. But if we remove “to us” from the equation, everything changes.

Sometimes we face dilemmas and decisions that are so important we just can’t seem to find an answer. We get frustrated, anxious and even obsessed. We get stuck. A great way to get unstuck is to stop looking for an answer and just observe the question… in a different way.

Our first reaction to fears is often to go into survival mode where fears paralyse or overwhelm us and all we can do is either hide or run away. But it doesn't have to be like that. We can also learn from fears and live our lives in expansion mode.

Last week I was interviewed for a podcast and, at a certain point, I made a mistake. The inner voice in my head went ballistic and almost derailed the whole interview. The podcast, eventually, went super well, and I learnt a lesson about how much we demonise making mistakes while, in all honesty, they’re part and parcel of the splendour of all the things we do.

Last week, I saw some profound suffering in my mum while she was telling me the story of a relative “disrespecting” her. And I could see how she was holding on to that suffering even weeks later. Sometimes, we feel disrespected by others, we feel hurt and hold on to that personal pain for long, but there can be more empathetic and constructive ways to handle these situations.

Sometimes we do things that later, we regret. We feel guilty and make ourselves miserable. But what good comes out of guilt? Is there a better mindset we can embrace to empower ourselves?

Have you felt overwhelmed this year? It’s been a heck of a demanding year. It’s time to take a holiday now and to invest in your most profound wellbeing. It’s time to sharpen your most important tool: yourself.

Are you working hard toward a goal right now? Do you think after you achieve it, you'll feel happy? If so, you're actually falling into an unhappiness trap because, in reality, we don’t have control over whether we achieve our goals or not. We can “do our best,” but in our head we mix it up with “controlling the outcome” (an exam, a job, a pay rise, a relationship, etc.) which, in reality, depends on a myriad of people and factors outside our control. This way, we actually end up giving away control over our happiness and deep wellbeing. But there are empowering ways not to fall into this trap.

In a love relationship, we often look for happiness and solutions to our problems. This puts an extraordinary burden on the relationship and our partner, while the responsibility for our happiness should be only ours. What can we build a healthy relationship on? Self-awareness and growth.

It was Earth Day last week and we asked ourselves, “OK, what is the most Wise Humanity way to encourage respect and promote love for the planet?”

Have you ever been heartbroken? Devastated by the end of a love relationship? Did you feel like the world was ending? That life was meaningless without your (now ex) partner? A great part of that pain is not your fault; it’s the model of romance that we’ve built in our modern culture.